The holidays for me are usually spent musing over the past year. I had the pleasure yesterday of reading Jill Coleman’s post on her 2012 Reflections. This post was all about what she learned this year in terms of her mindset and it put me in the perfect mind frame to muse about my year.
Click the link below to check out her blog:
Reflections on 2012 Part 1: MINDSET
I would categorize this year for me as a hard lesson learned with joys and setbacks that have taught me how strong I am and that I’m growing into the woman I want to be.
Here are 3 things I learned:
I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY HAPPINESS
I have been guilty in the past for relying on others or experiences or outside affluences to create happiness. I finally, truly grasped that I am responsible for how I feel and no matter what happens or what I go through I have the ability to focus on the good and choose to be happy. I started a new job at an amazing agency at the beginning of February. After having lost my job at the end of 2011 and feeling despair over finding a new “home” I couldn’t have been more blessed with a better work place, amazing coworkers and clients. Every day is not always coming up roses but I choose happiness because I am grateful and thankful to have an income and have amazing challenges that grow my management skills.
EXPERIENCES ARE NEVER A WASTE OF TIME
This year was marked by the end of unhealthy relationship. The pain of calling off the wedding one month prior to the big day was traumatic, to say the least. In the midst of my tears I remember sobbing “I just wasted 3 years of my life”. After pulling myself out of the grief I am smacking myself upside the head for ever having said that. I am grateful for the good and the bad. I am grateful for every single moment and what it has taught me and how it has made me a better person. Through the tears and the heartbreak I grasped onto the journey and what I went through. Everyone kept telling me “Everything Happens For A Reason” and it’s true but please note that someone who is grieving is never ready to hear that. Now on the other side of sadness, I can recognize that this year has taught me a sense of calmness that things will always work out and a knowledge & empathy for others and what they may be going through. I have learned what type of woman I am in a relationship and that I have so much trust & love to give the right person. I am a stronger woman today than I was this time last year. I am learning to trust my gut more than I ever have and I cannot wait for a new adventure.
LIFE IS BUILT TO MAKE YOU STRONGER
Just plain and simple I am blessed by every year I go through and every lesson I learn. I’m thankful for my friends, family and faith that got me through 2012. I’m so excited to take on 2013.